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Originally Posted by andrew  Valid point. It's HARDWIRED into men to be more attracted to looks. I really don't see why people supress this. Sure it's shallow if it's THE ONLY THING, but there's no reason that you can't be both physicaly attractive and personality wise. There's no right or wrong about it, it's just how it is. There's so many people on this planet, there's no reason you can't have high standards. And likes stated, everyone has different 'high standards'. Not everyone wants a super model.
There are special cases, sure, but we're not talking about that, we're saying just a girlfriend, not a wife or long term friend/mate. And it's not like it's a white or black thing, it would be overtime. You don't stop showering and become a slob and gain 30 lbs in a few days. |
Well, I must have grown a dick in the last five minutes, because I wouldn't stick around unless they had a good excuse.
I'm sorry, but it's not sexy to get smothered underneath a beer belly in bed. A hairy panza hanging over a tightly-belted waistband is NOT the look.
I will say this, however...if it's a sign of depression or something, you'll know from other signals that are also there. Lack of hygiene isn't always present with depression, but things like irritability, lack of enjoyment in your usual activities, etc, are. If you see a cluster of things like that, there's a problem. If you see your man sitting on his ass with the chips every damn night, he needs to wise up and know that complacency isn't acceptable.
With a woman, it's different. Baby weight, hormone fluctuations, redistribution of fat...men don't have those problems as intensely as women. I just really, really think that men stop giving a damn after they get comfortable; they think that they're safe, so they neglect a woman's desire and right to be turned on and stimulated by appearance. Let's face it: women are told to stay on point in order to keep things going, but men can be fat, obnoxious, and loud (look at all the commercials and shows with hot wives and gross, mean husbands) with no ramifications.
And B.O...okay, no. I would just come straight out and say, "Babe, this isn't the commune. Get it together and use some Axe."
Of course, we all change as we grow older, but I think it's pretty easy to draw a line and know the difference between aging and sloth.
(I'm sorry if I sound brash. I'm in a very guarded state as far as relationships are concerned right now, and I am realizing how much men really DO get completely lazy and unappreciative of what they have!
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