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Originally Posted by SimonaRich  Funny enough it may be that you showed too much interest in her and sometimes girls are put off by that. You show that you really like her and they think that they won you over so they become disinterested. Just a thought.
I think it is quite good idea to try internet dating to practice your social skills. |
Thanks for your reply!, I don't think it's so much what I did consciously to put her off, I think it's the fact that I was too nervous and serious around her.. Like I tried to get to know her, and her to know me, but I really should have focussed on having fun and being more fun, and getting to know her along the way... Although maybe I did telegraph too much interest by looking into her eyes too much..
But it was really probably my first formal date ever, so you've got to learn somewhere.. (In NZ, we're not always formal about dating, probably a small population thing)
That might also be that I'm an introvert, but I can have fun with my friends, so want to be able to apply that fun to relationships.
When she dídn't reply to my email, I was a bit disappointed, but it gave me the self-reflection I needed. Plus, really there's only one way to learn how to have relationships.
I think I attracted her at the gig because I was feeling good, and talking to people I didn't even know and generally being fun. Plus she said to me that she was new to town and looking to meet new people, so naturally I was really welcoming (wouldn't you be if someone said that to you?).. Really she showed too much interest initially grabbing my hand at the gig after a little conversation, but I decided that I liked her, and so kind of shared the night with her.. Plus live music is a pretty spiritual experience for me, if it's the right band, so that's partly why I build it up in my head to be a massive event..
Also maybe it's just that my confidence wasn't high enough and need to work on that... I don't think that the date went particularly badly, she was really sweet and nice, but it's just that I don't think I was in the right headspace to be in a relationship with her, which is why what happened happened.. But, I'm going to go and work on improving my general self-confidence..
Plus, I'll probably see her at another gig, so if she wants to talk again, and I'm in the right headspace, you never know, but for now just forget about her and work on improving confidence by experiencing the world & this life and learning to not to care too much about others opinions!