Norbert, if you haven't already, you may find it helpful to read the following articles from Steve's blog:
I was actually going to include those links in a post I'm trying to write for you, but I'm finding it somewhat challenging to write, so I thought I'd post the links up sooner rather then later. As with most of the posts I write, I'm trying to write something with substance -- something that will hopefully assist you (and others in a simular situation) in some way.
Either way, I’m thankful to have encountered something challenging, so I’ll take some time to regather my thoughts and post what I’ve come up with a bit later on. Till then, I do hope you are able to continue to persevere through your current challenge.