In summer I dated someone for about a month. Then classes started and I go to school/live about 1.5 hours away from where she does. It's not that "long" distance, but with the both of us pretty busy, we only saw eachother every 3 or 4 weeks. Things weren't that serious between us when we started the long-distance thing. But somehow, because of trying to maintain the relationship in that situation, we started acting like it was more important than it actually was. Feelings changed but the relationship didnt. In the end it got pretty messy. Anyway...
I know your situation is a bit more commited, but here's my advice:
Dont let trying to maintain the long-distance relationship "freeze" it. In my experience, there is a lot of pressure to keep things "working" while long-distance. But the problem is that the relationship may change, feelings change, and it's NOT always because of the long distance. Be willing to accept those changes from both yourself and your other.
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