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Originally Posted by marktb  demand that she talk to you and open up. |
Funny thing about trust -- it doesn't tend to show up on demand. It's frustrating when you don't feel connected to your partner -- it can make you feel powerless and insecure. I agree that you should be open with her, and I feel it might be effective to let her know what
you are feeling: powerless, insecure, or whatever else it is, being careful that she knows those are YOUR feelings and she's not responsible for them. Let her know how much you care about her, and how you'd love to take the connection between you deeper, then allow her to take her time in responding.
One more thing: are you taking 100% responsibility for the relationship? Are you looking at yourself to see what you might be doing (or thinking or feeling) that might be creating for her a feeling of being unsafe or pressured? Do you have some unexplored trust issues yourself? It might be valuable for you both to see if and how you're mirroring each other.