OK, our lasts posts were written at the same time. Your last message is quite different from your original one. If your daughter herself considers her relationship abusive, then your position is a lot more justified.
I still think that you should encourage her and support her to make the decisions that are right for her, but not do it for her. Unless she literally asks you to protect her from the boy, you shouldn't have to put an end to their dates.
Think about what a chance she has to grow here, how she can learn to be assertive and see her needs met in her relationship, how she can make decisions to get the best of her life - and with the best support one could think of, a caring, loving, respectful, non intrusive mother! What a great start in her adult life.
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