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Originally Posted by Daffy Duck  I've always found that experimenting and communicating with my lover has been more than enough. |
Absolutely. You shouldn't have to figure out whether you're good based on your partner's reactions, you should be talking about it - before, during, after
I also like to read (there are a multitude of good sexblogs, forums, podcasts out there), both to get my libido and imagination going. Reading about techniques has a lot more to do with building your confidence than actually becoming an expert at that particular technique. Once you get excited about a particular act, bring it in the bedroom (metaphorically or not - some things you definitely need to discuss beforehand). Later, compare notes with your partner: how was it for them? What did they prefer? What didn't they like so much? Do they want to do it again? Is there something that would make it better?
Some resources I've enjoyed:
Sex is fun podcast
Dan Savage's
Savage Love podcast
The
MidWest Teen Sex Show (more fun than informative but you never know!)
and a bunch of blogs (Over Educated Nympho, Violet Blue.....)
I've seen books like "She Comes First" being recommended over and over on the net, but I've never read it and honestly, I prefer more interactive media. What you learn will only matter if your partner can comment on it, because there just are no universal rules when it comes to pleasure.