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Originally Posted by Lauxa  Why were you trying to calm or motivate yourself in the first place? I would say because you find a state of stress and worrying to be undesirable. |
I am impressed by the insightfulness of this comment, if it is not a general statement about everybody
. While ideally I try to motivate myself through the possibility of excitement and fun, my recent efforts been primarily based on trying to remove myself from a stressful living situation.
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Originally Posted by Lauxa I think you don't actually desire worry and stress, but you might feel that you "deserve" them or that you "need" them to make you behave "correctly". |
Spot on! I feel I need them. I think they are are good indicator of right action inline with human nature.
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Originally Posted by Lauxa Do you not trust that your own desires can lead you to a compassionate solution without worry? |
No I do not trust my own desires. This is due to bad habits, unnatural anxieties and fears I am unfortunately responsible for cultivating within myself over the past five years or so. I concede that a more personally developed human could do this.
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Originally Posted by Lauxa Important for who or what? Importance can only be defined through context, and we each get to decide what is important for us. For some, living life with as much joy as possible is more important than anything that they could worry over. |
I don't think "important for who or what" is relevant, just that the statement I originally refer to negates the importance of anything.
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Originally Posted by Lauxa Many here believe that by releasing worry first, the things we desire will come more easily and abundantly than if we bothered to worry over them. This is not to say don't put out any work or effort, only that worry is not required as a motivator for accomplishing said effort, and in fact can often increase the resistence to performing the necessary actions. |
What does "releasing worry first" mean? If it means feeling that initial emotional response to an action and then dropping it before it becomes unhelpful, that is what I am referring to. I am under the understanding that most worry and stress is unnecessary and unhealthy. I still think that there are some situations where worrying about something, or feeling stress (like the "eustress" dinc talks about) are healthy.
Lol, I read over the posts in this thread like 5 times trying to figure out why everyone was
cracking jokes about ducks. At first I was going to dismiss it, like water off my back, but I finally got it (haha Hummer O_o).