I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you right now, it probably feels as though the situation is out of your control but it's confusing, because on one level you could put your food down and end it(I don't know how your daughter would react to that, but she doesn't seem to be fighting against your advice atm so I would expect she may accept it) or you can just let it pan out so to speak and let her stay in a potentially tainted relationship. You say she's 18 - so she's an adult, old enough to see for herself whether this is doing her any good, but the issue may be that she doesn't feel she has a good enough reason to end the relationship with him, she gave him a warning, but that's a long cry from actually ending it. Maybe you should say to her that you want to know her decision soon because she knows how you feel about it and you don't feel you(pl) will see an improvement in how this is going.
I hope it works out well whichever way.
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