Cameron, it's not that the as*holes and scumbags
themselves disappear, the person doesn't get shipped away on a boat
, it's the
assholery and scumbaggery that disappear as you let go of the limiting beliefs that have a person separated from his own magnificence.
The more beauty one finds in himself, the more it shows up in others. He can still make evaluations, of course, and that may very well involve avoiding certain people (like certain personal development people
) if their actions don't work well in your life. You're right, it would be dumb to meekly allow behavior from others to run rampant in your life, without having any consequences such as your taking a stand or staying away from them or whatever else is your next right action.
And when you make a judgement about someone personally, like "he's a as*hole," it doesn't mean anything at all about the "as*shole" -- it's probably not going to make a positive difference in how he behaves around you; just the opposite most likely. "He's an as*hole" is a way to limit yourself -- by slapping this judgement on the guy, you rob yourself of influence in the situation, and it also generally feels bad, except maybe you get to feel that "spiritual superiority" thing that you decry, because you get to feel a little better that YOU are not an as*hole like all those as*holes out there. That's not really authentic good-feeling, though, as far as I'm concerned -- it's just barely coping, when personal development for smart people is more about
mastery and beyond.
When you let go of judgements, you become more flexible in your thinking and conversation, and that flexibility gives you more influence. The rigid, judgemental thinker and talker is more likely to say and think things that keep as*holery and scumbaggery going (like, when you yell "you as*hole!" at a driver who cuts you off, and they flip you the bird, and then you move to cut
them off, etc... the whole Palestine-Israel conflict reenacted on the 405 Freeway). And as the judger begins to notice that everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available, including himself, he starts to feel more understanding for the other person's motivations, and thereby gives himself more access to making a positive difference in the situation. (and understanding motivations is GREAT for a writer!)
What I'm talking about is not spiritual superiority -- I have no idea what that is, even -- I'm talking about
: what works well for getting the desired results?
In this case, does Indiana want to
survive this party with all its as*holes and scumbags, or does she want to walk in there being inspired to possibly having a breakthrough in mastery, being the power to have everyone feeling really connected and delighted to be there celebrating their friend's birthday with whole hearts? One person taking responsibility, like Indiana, can make all the difference in the world as to how the party goes, and how the world goes.