 at what point
does it go from horsing around to abuse and domination? My 18 yr olds boyfriend has always rough housed with my daughter. At first I thought it was playful. Then a couple months ago, I mentioned it to my ex husband that I didn't like the way he always seemed to be trying to hurt her. She would tell him to stop and he would continue. During their little episodes I would cut in and tell him to not hurt her. He would react by just giggling about it.
It happened a couple of days ago, he was holding her legs and tickling her feet and she was screaming for him to stop, which he only just laughed. That disturbed me. I had a talk with her and asked her how she felt that he was treating her. I told her that what he was doing wasn't sitting good with me at all. She replied that she is ok and she understands.
Me and my youngest went away over the weekend and I was worried about them being alone. I talked to her over the phone and they were going out to a movie with another couple on Saturday night. I more or less told her that what he was doing wasn't right and that I think its time he hits the road. I had my ex come and stay at the house so that the boyfriend would know that she wasn't home alone after the show.
My gut instincts are going crazy. Do I step up and put my foot down and break them up or let her do it. I know a part of her doesn't want to, but a part of her doesn't like the way he is treating her. She told me that she already talked with him and told him that if he doesn't stop that she can no longer be in the relationship. She replied to me that well he isn't doing it as much as he used to. This is driving me insane!
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