[brendannz]

OK, so you may have seen my last post about meeting this girl at the gig.

I'm looking to improve myself from this situation, and learn my lessons.

Turns out the date didn't go very well at all, was about 20 minutes over the coffee and had a polite conversation, even though I talked about quite a lot of stuff. I did enjoy talking to her, but I wasn't in the right frame of mind for it at all. She hasn't replied to my email. Completely disinterested, although I got a kiss on the cheek when left, but just a polite gesture. Even if she does reply to my email (unlikely) I might have to just accept wasn't meant to be and say my head was in the wrong place.

But I think the real cause of the problem, is the fact that I was thinking about this girl the whole time, and was too forward in trying to get to know her, wanting to know all her favourite bands, activities and wanting to tell her all of mine etc. right away. So my overactive imagination about the whole thing was the real reason it didn't go so well. But then again maybe I was honest and myself when I met her, and it just wasn't meant to be. I missed a poker game with mates, and also another mate wanted to go bowling with me, but I learnt more lessons about facing fears with women so that's good. It saved me from thinking years from now that she might have been the one.

But anyway, it made me a little bit sad, for a day, but, I want to learn the lessons correctly, for the next time I find myself in this situation. (She took my hands and I held her for a bit and kissed her at the gig, as discussed, no big deal) I feel like a little bit of a tool, but then you hear many stories about dudes who pay loads of money on gifts for women they don't know, so at least I didn't waste my money like them.

I don't really think a relationship is best for me at the moment, because I have other things on in life that I need to get sorted, getting a new house, and getting a career. But the main thing is the next time I meet a girl like this, who seems like a dream girl and is all over me, I'll know how to handle it well. She was really attractive and nice, but obviously wasn't looking for a meaningful relationship too much, probably just was a bit drunk, and I was wearing a white t-shirt, so maybe I just looked hot at the time, also I wasn't feeling anxious, I was feeling good to the music. I am quite physically attractive.. (not to brag)

Hopefully I want to be more confident, and not take things too seriously again.

Would it be worth going on internet dating to just get used to meeting girls for dates, just for the social experience? I think I want to be more outgoing and meet more people generally, any ideas for going out to places where I can interact with girls as well as guys? and generally meet new people.

Also in dating what are some ways to be really honestly forward or flirting in your approach, rather than just asking a million 'get to know you' questions.

Also, I think I need to build confidence, I've had about 2 situations where I go to the job interview, and do really well and then the second interview I'm too nervous and don't do as well, so confidence is a big one..

Maybe also having a good sense of humour would be a good thing, I've got quite a good sense of humour, at times, but need to be able to use it for all situations. Just generally get more of a life..

Thanks to everyone who replied to my last thread..

And I promise everyone NO part 3 to this... hahah