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ZenFender · 01-25-2007, 03:30 PM

We've been together for about a year, and everything on the surface is great (I'm crazy about her, she's crazy about me, no arguments, etc.).

But I can't help but feel like I don't really know who my GF truly is...its hard to put my finger on it, but I'll try.

She's always been more on the quiet side, and it took her a while to "warm up" to me. But even then, I feel like she isn't TRULY 100% being herself and opening herself up to me. It always feels as if she "keeps her doors shut" to protect herself. Now, this isn't some blatantly obvious thing where she doesn't talk to me, or doesn't tell me how she feels etc, but its more of a...deeper connection sorta thing. Its just something I feel in my heart- a sense that on the surface level, I know who my GF is, but on another level, I have no f*ckin clue who I'm dating. Sometimes, I get the feeling that she's holding something back, or not telling me something very important.

I'm not sure if this is because she's not opening herself up properly, or because I have unrealistic expectations, or all this stuff is just a figment of my imagination. On occasions, she would even TELL me that she's a very closed person.

So I guess my question is, are my expectations realistic? Am I imagining things? And if I AM realistic and not imagining things, what can I do to open her up emotionally?

Thx guys!

01-25-2007, 03:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
ZenFender Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 33	Doesn't feel like I know my GF We've been together for about a year, and everything on the surface is great (I'm crazy about her, she's crazy about me, no arguments, etc.). But I can't help but feel like I don't really know who my GF truly is...its hard to put my finger on it, but I'll try. She's always been more on the quiet side, and it took her a while to "warm up" to me. But even then, I feel like she isn't TRULY 100% being herself and opening herself up to me. It always feels as if she "keeps her doors shut" to protect herself. Now, this isn't some blatantly obvious thing where she doesn't talk to me, or doesn't tell me how she feels etc, but its more of a...deeper connection sorta thing. Its just something I feel in my heart- a sense that on the surface level, I know who my GF is, but on another level, I have no f*ckin clue who I'm dating. Sometimes, I get the feeling that she's holding something back, or not telling me something very important. I'm not sure if this is because she's not opening herself up properly, or because I have unrealistic expectations, or all this stuff is just a figment of my imagination. On occasions, she would even TELL me that she's a very closed person. So I guess my question is, are my expectations realistic? Am I imagining things? And if I AM realistic and not imagining things, what can I do to open her up emotionally? Thx guys!