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Originally Posted by Cameron Teone  ...
I’d like to see people who spout off the advice in the quote above, go back to 1942, and tell that to some poor kid whose grandparents are being shipped to concentration camps in Nazi Germany. “Hey, little kid, see the people about to murder your grandparents? See the good in those people, discover the joy and abundance, the Nazis just, poof, disappear.”
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I think you're missing a distinction here. You can accept people for who they are, and still not accept their behaviour. You get problems if you don't accept people ('they are bad, so I'll <whatever>'). Then you act out of resistance, and usually that doesn't work.
There's a quote I read a long time ago:
'no man is a villain in his own eyes.' When I read that the first time, I immediately resisted that statement. Since then I've discovered that whenever I go to 'he / she is bad' it doesn't help me or the other person.
Doesn't mean I accept bad behaviour though, but at last I'm learning to distinguish a person from his behaviour. Works better for me.