Originally Posted by Cameron Teone  Angela wrote:
You bring up a good point. That point is this: Statements like in the paragraph above are why I keep myself distanced from the Self-help people in general.
Sometimes, life can be difficult but you work through the tough times and you’re better for it. That’s how character is built. You don’t become consumed with pretending how everyone is just soooo awesome, yayyyy, and you don’t become consumed with people who are a*sholes.
If all you’re seeing is one polarizing opposite or the other, then you have delved to the extreme of both sides.
You look at the path of success people, and you find that they focus on their goals and objectives. Makes pretty good sense. They don’t become entangled in negativity, but they also don’t delude themselves in this phony positivity about, “Oh, wait, no more as*holes, we shipped them all away on a boat to oblivion, and now the world is one giant fiesta.”
They accept that along the way, there will be people who are fantastic individuals. You'll meet life long friends are who are incredible people. On the same token, there will be those who are sleazy, sneaky, and charlatans. By accepting both sides, you learn to DEVELOP SOCIAL SKILLS to deal with the situation and the people of various ilk.
I’d like to see people who spout off the advice in the quote above, go back to 1942, and tell that to some poor kid whose grandparents are being shipped to concentration camps in Nazi Germany. “Hey, little kid, see the people about to murder your grandparents? See the good in those people, discover the joy and abundance, the Nazis just, poof, disappear.”
Are ALL people just this one way or the other? Of course not! You’ll encounter the skills and grit to deal with situations presented to you.
Anyhow, just my opinion. I am not going to claim some sort of spiritual superiority which is customary in the field of self-help ;-)
hope you're having a good weekend,
take care
Cameron |