It's really interesting to see the range of responses to the situation, thank you everyone.
In one way, it would be easy for me to think, 'Yeah, I can suck it up because I'm the better person and C is just a sad, negative b*tch'. But that doesn't really resolve anything because it allows my negative feelings about C to continue, and also enforces unpleasant characteristics in my personality, like 'judgmental' and 'smug'. It's tempting to do that because when someone has treated you badly, you want to believe it's because they are bad and can't see how you are good. However I have to imagine that if C treats me badly, it's because she has decided I am bad and she is good.
So to you, Angela, who seems like the best person to get me through that thinking.
It's actually the first time I've tried something like this so I feel like the answers are taking some work. My instant response to the first situation was: "I must not make up stories".... very interesting for someone who writes for a living!
But I feel like that's only half of it, and I'm still looking for the 'I am ______'. Perhaps I'm getting ahead of myself here, as I'm trying to grab at something that I can apply to both the situations and get some answers in the second. I'm still going!!
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