Thanks for your responses everyone, I do think that going to the dinner would be the right thing to do.
Angela, it took me a while to think of this situation but when I was about six, I was over at a schoolfriend's house. She told me she was going to do something fun on the weekend with her family, and I felt envious, so I told her my brother and I were going to the local swimming pools the next day, which wasn't true.
She then went to her mother and told her she wanted to go to the pools with us. Her mother rang mine to ask if she could come, but of course, my mother knew nothing of the plans.
At that time I felt anxious about being found out, resentful that my friend had 'put' me in this situation (why couldn't she be content with just doing what she had planned/why didn't I just ask to come with her), resistant to her mother calling mine and closed (didn't want to confess I had made it up).
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