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Originally Posted by polyfulcrum  Use your Big Boy Words! I know that women are just as bad about this, so lead by example. If you want something (time to hang with your mates, for example), say so. If you dislike something (not into interior decorating?), don't go along to humor us. If you notice something that you like about your partner (I really like the way she treats my Mum.), verbalize it, rather than just thinking it in your head. If there is an issue that is bothering you, don't wait for us to notice that you're upset about something and pry it out of you, even if it's something that is our fault, and especially if it isn't. |
Yes, that would be nice! Let go of the scorecard in your head and be fully self-expressed rather than swallowing your feelings. If you find yourself believing that women (or a particular woman) "always" or "never" does such and such, examine that belief for truth -- really, no exceptions? These universals are such an excellent way of robbing a relationship of freedom. (And, as polyfulcrum mentioned, it's not just men who do this -- women can be in the same boat.)