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Originally Posted by crescive  Because I think this topic is extremely interesting, may I ask why you don't get anything worthwhile from hanging out with your kids? Like you just don't have fun, they don't make you laugh, or spark inspiration or imagination in you, or whatever emotions parents feel when they are around their kids? What is it that you just don't like about hanging out with your kids or children in general? Do you just feel like there is something more interesting that you could be doing instead? Could you just specify? |
I like hanging out with children, and my children in particular. It's the 7 days with complete responsibility for children that wears me down. I don't look forward to the weeks with children at all, and I find the weeks boring, tedious and wishing the days would pass faster*. For lack of a better expression, I'm feel more like an uncle or grand parent than a parent.
Yes, children probably teaches me more than I teach them, I know because I've learned _a lot_ from having children. I'm afraid that I'm currently not listening much to them though
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Originally Posted by crescive I'm not passing judgment, I just want to know because although I don't have any kids myself, I love kids, I think there is more that we can learn from children than they can from us. I really enjoy seeing the world from their eyes, a fresh perspective. Also, I'm currently dating someone who is a dad and he's worked out the custody with his ex wife where he sees his 6 year old daughter A LOT. I'd like to know more about your perspective. |
I'm biased. I'm not a family person, wishing to have and raise a family, and I left my wife who very much _is_ a family person because I didn't know maself well enough at the time.
That said, I see no problem in dating people with kids at all. I'm seeing a woman with three(!) kids, and we have a very different kind of relationship, one that I cherish very much. She knows I'm not there to take over the family-father role so we have virtually no problems regarding children (mine or hers).
* I don't _always_ feel like that, but more often than I think is healthy.