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Originally Posted by Bas  Don't want to be nitpicking, but you're exaggerating 
Kissing is indeed not such a big deal to girls. Shy people shouldn't forget that they see the world they are - you're projecting yourself. You assume other people might see kissing as a big deal, because you see it as a big deal. Whereas I know some guys who can go to a club with 200 people inside and kiss 5 girls there within an hour or two (nasty, I know). To them it's not a big deal - and they don't think it's a big deal to anyone else.
Their frame creates their reality.
So when you make an assumption about something or someone, be sure to ask yourself "is this real, or is this me?" before telling yourself that assumption is valid. Don't do it all the time though, do it in easy situations, where it doesn't lead to over-analysis.
Ultimately you should let your feeling, your intuition, guide you. It's the best guide you have. |
Thanks, yeah, it's my reality.
Basically yeah, maybe kissing isn't such a big deal to everyone, but I held her for a lot of the night so shared about 20-30 minutes or so of intimacy to a band we really like, not just some rubbish pop music, basically the chemistry is there, now it's just a matter of putting it together with face to face verbal communication over a coffee which comes next, tomorrow...