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Originally Posted by spirit4711

Read this: How to Stop Being Jealous.

Thanks for the article. It was good to read and I am familiar to the idea of oneness, but it's a little hard to think that people you don't like are you, don't you think Oneness also means that I am my gf too. I don't love me (as in oneness), I love a person. I don't like to watch my gf changing clothes in a way that there I am stripping, niiiiiice. Get my point? I don't have to like every person in this planet even tho I understand they are one with me.

Originally Posted by nhaasch

This is a big belief you'll want to work through. You are valuable. You are important. And, these feelings have nothing to do with how others treat you. It has to do with your self esteem. Can you remember a time in the past when you did feel important? Hold onto those feelings and think about your present day. You are important today. I'm sure you can come up with examples of ways in which you are unique and provide value to the world around you.

Thanks a lot for your kind words! It made me feel better. Sometimes, we need someone to remind us. Yes, I have something that makes a handful of people happy from time to time. Maybe I should stick with the thought those people are important to me, every single person, and it doesn't have to be a group of thousands and thousands of people. And I need to treat "my people" very good so I'm even more important to them. This cleared a lot my head, thanks.

And you derserve to feel wanted. You deserve to feel of value

What does this get you to show them all that you are greater

That was actually ironic comment from me, but there is also truth in it. I know it's stupid to start competing with somebody. And it's even more stupid to compete with someone who is very hard to compete with
But competing keeps me going and winning at least something gives me more self-confidence. I really don't HAVE to show them I'm the greatest but I wouldn't mind to see the day when I, for example, sell my work more than my gf's ex. You know, on that day I wouldn't have anything why to think he's more succesfull than me. And because that is too hard to achieve, I'm now asking another ways to get over this. And it means I have to beat my own way of thinking.

Originally Posted by Cyllya

Well, why do you appreciate fame so much?

I don't appreciate it much. I know somewhere back in my head it means something if someone is famous when I see her/him on the streets. It's a good question and I can't answer why. Why do you?

Don't speak for other people. Not everyone's tastes and feelings are the same as yours. If you feel your girlfriend is lying about her feelings, maybe you should address the matter of communication between the two of you.

Wait. I was trying to say, she loves me like I am and she does not want me to be anything else than I am. And I think people see and feel fame in other person. She is not lying to me and we don't need to talk about it more than we do

Are you concerned about being great in your own eyes or in your girlfriend's eyes?

I would like to show her that I can be something as well which leads to me in the end happily completing my mission. So, I answer both.

It seems like you equate fame with success, so if you want to be successful, maybe you should try getting on a reality TV show or something.

No, I definitely don't want to be famous. I would like to be wanted, not famous. Or better said, I would like to have my things wanted, not me, because it's enough that I know who have done them.

Originally Posted by Brutha

The question is how to show yourself that you are greater.

True.


Still, it's a problem how to react when I hear "the ex" in media. I.e. I wouldn't buy a ticket to festivals where he is performing even if there are my favorite artists I would like to see. Any prescription for that?