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Originally Posted by TaylorLord

Oracle thanks you aswell! You make some great and valid points! You give this subject a whole different perspective but i think you are missing the point that i was trying to make.

Thank you for replying. I dont think I have missed your point as you stated it quite clearly. Your point seems to be 'if people are not reaching their goals or doing certain tasks, its because they didnt want it in the first place'. This is an absolute statement. If you had said it was one of many reasons, it would be different

Originally Posted by TaylorLord

Hey friends this is my latest post at G3! Hope you enjoy. -Taylor

I feel like this post will really resonate with a lot of you.

How many times have you started a project and left it dead in its tracks? Or even started something, got great results and then quit! How bout been in relationships where you just went along with it instead of letting them know how you really feel? If your like me we have all done this many times in our lives. The reason for it is not because you cant do it, its because you don’t really want to do it in the first place.

Originally Posted by TaylorLord

I didn't say anything or write about people that start things with good intentions. If you want to loose weight and fail then you don’t want it bad enough, regardless if it’s hard or not. If you’re not willing to go through the pain or ease involved than you don’t care enough to do it. They don’t mind that they are overweight or out of shape, if they did they would do something about it for their self.

Now here, this I agree with. There is a world of difference between not wanting something in the 1st place and not wanting something enough. But then you have to ask yourself, what are the reasons for not wanting it enough? Is it, not wanting it enough to go through discipline? or not enough to overcome self doubt and limiting beleifs?

Originally Posted by TaylorLord

Truthfully I need to loose a good 25 pounds in order to get rid of my sugar gut ! I have "plans" of getting rid of it but my focus isn't caring about that right now. I have tried a few times started working out then got off track and stopped because my intentions weren't geared towards myself.

My focus wasn't strong enough to continue with it. Something else caught my eye and I went after it like a loose dollar bill on the side of the street. My focus got shifted so quickly because I really didn't care either way.The true reason why people start things that end up failing is because there intentions aren't right in the first place. Bottom line, that is the main reason

Again I agree with you but as you said in the above post, your desire wasnt strong enough , which is different from desire wasnt totally yours, but was for someone else.

You also bring something to mind. There are many who desire things, but when they realise the amount of work and effort that it entails, their attention is blown over to the next big thing. 'Jack of all, master of none' Down the line, they come to realise they have only ever desired things that are quick and easy to come by. They come 15 yrs on and realise they have not acheived or built anything that required major desire and effort. Do you not agree?

By the way, that is not a dig at you. I am just highlighting what I see alot of 20, 30 and 40 somethings do in their lives

Originally Posted by TaylorLord

It doesn't mean that your not good at it, it means that you don’t want to put the effort into it because you don’t really want it. They like the idea of a puppy but don’t like the responsibilities and effort involved of keeping the puppy. There intentions are warped!

But before one makes a decision and starts things, you must evaluate your intentions and invest time to see what is truly involved!

You make an absolute statement again here supposing that people will put effort into a goal, if they really want something, which I can agree with to a degree. But, I am sure you have seen people talk themselves out of desires for various reasons. hard work being, 1 of them.

chasing a goal of being a rocket scientist is not the same as owning a puppy (I know you never said it was) The harder a goal is and the longer a goal takes, the least likely you are to know what would be involved in accomplishing it.The more desire you are going to have to find along the way. I remember hearing on a brian Tracy tape, that alot of successful people say "If they knew the cost of their goals, they would not have paid the price, and if they lived a second life they would go for something different" For many it costs them marriage, kids, health, time, money, youth you name it. Remember some people have humongeous visions that take them years to acheive. Some peoples goals are driven by the fear of failing more than the desire for their goals. Brian Tracy talks about being driven by the fear of poverty more than anything else in his early days.

What I think you fail to recognise is the aspect that fear, limiting beleifs and deserving issues and discipline can have on an individual. Let me give you 2 examples. Public speaking and asking out women. Stats show most people have a desire to public speak, but would rather die than face mass rejection. Now its not that they dont desire to public speak, its eiether they dont desire it enough and/or they fear the pain of being riduculed more than the success. The same goes for men asking out beautiful women. How many times you been out and seen men who drool on women and steer, but then talk themselves out of the appraoch. Have you never done that with a beautiful woman you desired? Is it lack of desire or even enough desire or could it be immense fear of failure and rejection,, espiecally if they have failed before

Wat fragile egos we men have

its like damned if I do, damned if I dont!

Another thing is life is competitive, and alot of people dont like to put themselves and their reputations on the line for things, that they truely desire, just to have their hides spanked by others. This is why people pick up motivation audios and books. So Tony Robbins and Brian Tracy can remind them to go for what they truely want

Originally Posted by TaylorLord

Think about the things people succeed in. It’s the things that they put their whole body spirit and mind into. This has nothing to do with morals or good and bad people. It has to do with doing what you want.

Agreed, you can add discipline and perseverance to the list

Originally Posted by TaylorLord

I quit college after one semester and I don’t regret quitting it at all because it wasn't what I really truly wanted. I was seeking approval from a relationship I was in. I thought it was something that I "needed to do" and not what I wanted.

I had to come to that realization to get where i am at today. I love my life and sometimes I will say you have to go through some faulty times in order to get to your real passion in life. You have to fail to succeed and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Everyone I have ever known has told me that there needs to be a complete feeling involved along with dedication and commitment.The world can be separated into people that want it and people that don’t.
You need to analyze yourself and make sure your intentions are made from solid internal desires and not soft external desires

I applaud you for leaving college. You sound like a confidant person who knows what they want. I truely dont beleve anybody should do something they truely dislike. But alot of people quit out of laziness. desire can be built and destroyed on the way to your goal. Desire can wax and wane hourly, that is why it is more important to stoke the fire of desire regularly. This I beleive is the main purpose of MOTIVATION. Regular memorisation of your motives will build desire, it is not something you need to have at a finite quantity before you pursue your goal. Desire for anything can be built or destroyed at any moment

Originally Posted by TaylorLord

Its okay to not finish[/B]

You see its okay not to finish. Not finishing something you don’t like isn’t a character flaw, its a character PLUS. Its better to admit defeat then to stay doing something you know that will be the death of you. If you believe in something, you give it your all, you fight with all you have, you really want it then you will be successful.

Agreed you should not finish something truely dislike. But to quote you, you need to check your motives for dislikeing it.

Is it that you truely dislike it or you dislike the effort.

To quote Brian tracy, most people seek what is fun and easy, rather than what is hard and necessary. I stand by my statement. If years have gone by and you find yourself feeling desire, starting things then quitting after a few days coz of lack of desire, take stock. Do you have anything that you stuck out, that you have accomplished and can say you are proud? If yes, it was worth it. That is character growth. But quitting, to do nothing is not growth, espiecally if years go by and you are still waiting for something you like, and unfortunately this is the reality of so many who find themselves in dead end jobs that they hate.

People have to learn to build desire. people have to learn to stoke it when the going gets tough and everything in them wants to quit. This is character

For the record, I do feel there are many who your post directly resonates with them and they do need to stop chasing goals that are not them.

However, i also dont want to see the lazy, using your post as a clarification for them to quit. yet again another goal they were to lazy to see through