When I'm doing this I don't use any theory I just use improv. I'm not very good at it (I'm beginning to get some succes now) but I think you will have a much more solid foundation if you do and learn it this way.
And like Chui said, just do it. If you are in a bad state then put up your mp3player on and get some track going on in your ears that will pump up your state! It's just all in the head.
And If you're beginning with this, then you shouldn't aim for the succes that will make you nervous. Just aim for the fun and the succes wil follow. And I once had the succes I want and discovered that the fun itsself was way cooler by the way.
What I think is fun to do is going with a buddy to some place where nobody knows you and then kick yourself COMPLETELY out of your own comfortzone. If you get positive responses then you will make new believes too out of those experiences.
I did stuff like:"Hey I find you very cute and want to know you better", this was way out of my comfortzone! Or like a badboy opener (I guess in America Badboy isn't that popular as in the Netherlands): turning a girl and then checking her out and enjoy it. I did it a few times and it was fun but not my style though.
It's like if you want to do this you gotta FEEL it! Not know it, it must be an emotion to you and everything. I'm saying if this only sounds logical to you then you tend to be a KJ for a little while longer I guess.
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Do you recommend taking a workshop?
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Only when you have too much money, I never took a workshop because succes can be made on your own. I really did everything myself and sometimes went to a lair meeting of the dutch forum (which is a really good lair by the way! they give excellent advice) so there is no need. By the way if you live like in New York there should also be a lair or something to join, google it.