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Originally Posted by ang569  [/B]
What does this mean? I was reading this and understood all you said but this.
I always read your input because you always have good things to say.  |
Thank you. That was a quote from the OP, and to me it sounds like the kind of belief which contains the seeds of freedom from being run by old pain:
"Every time things are going really well something comes up where he is being insensitive and hurts my feelings tremendously."
You can often recognize those root cause beliefs, because they contain "every time" or "always" or "never" -- and they also refer to someone or something external who appears to be
causing pain ("hurts my feelings").
If a person takes the time to think about it, of course there are exceptions to "every time" and "always" and "never;" and of course the person doesn't literally hurt your feelings (it's your thoughts about what he said that cause you to hurt), so these are good phrases in which you can recognize ancient pain, the kind of pain that you've been re-creating for a looooong time, based on an ooooooold decision you made about yourself. One way to find that old decision is to use the leading phrase, ".....and that means that I am {blank}" -- you're looking for what you decided is true about yourself by looking to see what you make it mean when boyfriend does this or that.
See what I mean? There's a lot of gold available when you find your limiting decisions, and bring them out into the light of day, where you can see that they are nothing but ghosts -- like the little kid who is so afraid of the monster in the dark, but when he switches on the light, it turns out the monster was only his clothes from the day before, thrown over the back of a chair. Phew!