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Originally Posted by Plato  Be honest, be yourself, and don't care what happens. Reach out and connect with her in the first way that comes to mind. It's not a big deal. It's a just an interaction with one of billions of people.
Most importantly, GET EXPERIENCE!!! Then you won't need advice.
Giving people social advice is akin to instructing somebody on how to walk, muscle by muscle. You learn by doing it. |
Thanks Dr. Plato,
I've been trying to get that in my head. Be honest, be myself and don't care what happens. I'd like to make out again, but really I should just try to have fun, and if I get social anxiety, make sure I don't do anything offensive, which would be pretty hard to do anyway. If nothing comes to anything it probably would be for the better..
I'm just trying to build a wall of inner happiness with myself, so external events don't affect me.
I've been emailing her, she's a master degree student.. and still waiting for her to reply to my current email, so it's possible she'll reconsider and not reply, but that's alright.
Do you think that getting email is a bad idea rather than phone number? In your opinion? I've found with general friendships I've made, that emails a better way to get to know people faster, than phone conversation.. Plus I'm supposed to be meeting her for a 'coffee' so then can get in the face to face communication.. I might have a hot chocolate to ease anxiety rather than a coffee, even though I like coffee
She emailed me this youtube link to a song by the band that played;
YouTube - For Real *** Okkervil River
It has the lyrics "I wanna see you tried" and "You can't hide" which kind of is a fitting message for me on this date, because I've been thinking of backing out in fear, but i won't, because I know there's only one way to learn to socialise.. But I'm pretty sure she just sent it, because I told her what albums I have and this song isn't on them, so she thinks I haven't heard this track and seen the video, and is just simply saying "this song is cool".
I think everyone's been helpful enough with this post and it's really just a matter of not worrying about the outcome..
If anyone knows any things I can do to not think about her / the date in the meantime, that would be cool..
I just have a bit of a worrying problem.. and need to calm down, sometimes.