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Originally Posted by Justagirl  I am and do give 100%, I'm well derserving and I am a good catch for a deserving suitor... good job, financially stable, no kids, no other baggage--43 years old and widowed 13 years ago (also attractive). |
I get that that's your
conscious belief about yourself. And the fact that you've been willing to be treated shabbily by your partner for two years would indicate to me that you have also got some unconscious beliefs about yourself that are not quite so sunny.
Of course he acts the next day like nothing happened, and tells you you are oversensitive. You have trained him to think that is normal and fine! It might not seem to you that you have been training him that way, because you have objected and fought and defended yourself. But all that resistance itself is what has been training him to keep doing it. He's got his own limiting beliefs, and you two have been complementing each other.
Wouldn't it be nice to
totally interrupt that pattern? One good way to do that is to see what you have been believing that is working against your conscious desire to have a great relationship. You can start by looking boldly at filling in the blanks:
"Every time things are going really well something comes up where he is being insensitive and hurts my feelings tremendously
and that means that I am _____________."