Originally Posted by Eric Roosevelt
This is a very general question you're asking us, but a good first step is usually to become more conscious of the thoughts. If you have a tendency to suppress them because of the pain they're causing you, don't let that happen..
I love mind-mapping, too. You can also tap on the suppression itself, or do The Work on your belief that you are not yet able to remember or see clearly the thoughts that are causing pain. You can start where you are, and gently loosen up your thinking as comfortably and quickly or slowly as is most beneficial for you now.