Originally Posted by CroMagna
How do you uproot thoughts that cause pain?
This is a very general question you're asking us, but a good first step is usually to become more conscious of the thoughts. If you have a tendency to suppress them because of the pain they're causing you, don't let that happen.
You may want to start by mind-mapping the problem on a piece of paper, but more importantly, start doing something that contributes towards solving your problem. If you can think of something concrete that you can actually do, then do it.