Instead of looking to others to please you, can we try first to improve what you already have?
I believe sex in a committed relationship shouldn't just be about the climax. It's an intimate, special, bonding moment. Could your problems with "sex" be a symptom of a bigger problem of no emotional connection in the relationship?
What do you feel you're lacking with your sexual relationship with the wife? For example: Is it that she is not interested often? This could be a hormone or physical problem, and it doesn't mean she'll always be this way. She could talk to her doctor.
Sometimes women have problems with sex because of past abuse (rape, incest, emotional abuse involving sex). Has she ever hinted something bad might've happened to her? Do you feel like you've got an open enough relationship that she'd tell you? If she can't tell you, can she be encouraged to talk to a therapist?
Is it that she won't do anything you suggest? Is it a religious objection? Or is she feeling uncomfortable or scared of the new idea? Can a compromise be made? Is she open to watching adult videos, and if so, perhaps that might give her some ideas to try?
The problem with always looking for better sex elsewhere is that you'll always be chasing woman, looking for better & better encounters. If you find one gives you mind-blowing sex, you may fall in love with her because of how she makes you feel. If you experience enough women, it's only a matter of time before you risk a STD or unwanted pregnancy. Condoms do break sometimes. If you're completely happy in the marriage, is it worth risking over more exciting sex?
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