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Originally Posted by merveilles  How many of you keep track of how many people you've slept with? |
I'm 41, and when I was in my early 20s I used to keep track of how many people I'd slept with. And then, at some point, I couldn't remember the
exact number so I gave up entirely. I don't see it as all that important, anymore. I know how many people I've slept with in the past three years, which is really all that matters (if it does).
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Also, what determines if you'll sleep with someone? Like do you have a list of standards they have to meet?
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Hell, yes, I have standards. Admittedly, I didn't have very good ones when I was really young, but even then there were plenty of guys too sleazy, creepy, rude, scary, pathetic, or gross to sleep with.
But even now, it's not a long, nitpicky list. For me, looks are completely negotiable; hygiene is absolutely not. And I've long since given up on sleeping with people I don't genuinely like and enjoy being around, and that don't like me in return. I don't care how good-looking a guy is; if he's a boorish, overbearing pig I'm not wasting my time on him. Same goes for so-called "nice guys." (Both kinds of guys are usually lousy in bed anyway.) There are plenty of genuinely fun, cool, considerate men out there who are more than happy to do the friends-with-benefits thing; I don't need to do random hookups with jerks, posers, and whiners.
Basically, it comes down to asking myself, "Do I like this guy? Is he fun to be with? Is there reciprocity (are we
both going to enjoy this encounter)? Is he likely to wear a condom, instead of giving me some lame-ass, self-serving excuse for not doing so? If I were to wake up next to him tomorrow would I be cool with it (or would I slip out silently at dawn to avoid him)? Would I readily admit to having slept with him, if asked by my best friend?" If I answer any of those questions with a "No," forget it.