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Originally Posted by Smokey  So I got myself this boyfriend, right? I've never loved a man more than I do him. He's easily one of those people I could send the rest of my life with. But, of course, there's a problem.
I love alone, more than anyone around me can seem to fathom. It's just my time to recharge. I've been living in a dorm so I can easily ditch my boyfriend by saying I'm going to bed, but now I'm moving into an apartment with him and a few other friends. I only now, a day before moving in, realized that if I do this, my time to be alone is...nonexistent! I fear I may do something stupid, because I get cranky when I'm around people non-stop. Even people I love.
The real problem though, he's all over me, all the time. I have never met a hornier person, and I just don't have the energy to keep up, or the jaw strength to keep him pleased. And when he's not trying to get in my pants, he's hovering like no other.
Give me some advice on how I go about telling him to back off a little bit. I could deal with his horniness (I have a bit of a sex drive myself) but I NEED time alone. Or give me tips on how to get alone time.
You guys have helped me before, I trust in you to help me again, thanks.  |
You have to sit him down alone and drum both issues into his head, becos I guarantee you it will irritate you 6mth - 1yr from now. You have to agree a system where you have some alone time in you flat every week, or as often as you need, and send him to the movies or something. I think wat irritates alot of married people and co-habiters is not having time to themselves just to chill and think. Being around each other constantly is asilent killer in a lot of relationships
Wats important is tht you sort it out, b4 you start living together so he doesnt get use to another way. and think you are punishing him.
The sex thing. hmmm
I am a guy, and i am the exact same way with my girl. It got to the point where she would lose it and avoid me, and I now feel guilty even bringing it up. But then she now complains I dont want to cuddle, which is true. I find it hard to cuddle knowing I have been banned from taking it further. I am almost 30, not 13. All I can say is pls be patient. Now and again give him, a quickie, more often insist on romance, and just communicate to him that you just dont have the same drive. Do not however try to give hugs as a replacement. I know alot of females who think, as long as we are kissing or hugging or even a handjob is tthe same as sex. NO IT IS NOT. Nothing will irritate a horny man more than a partner that repeatedly turns him down for sex for wks, and then tries to hug him while he is still in heat