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All the bad experiences of my life are lessons and I'm not going to just forget them or let them go. They haunt me everyday and they give me reason to better myself.
To put it another way, when you find inner peace and happiness, you lose your edge, you become soft and careless. However when YOU put YOURSELF through hell, that's when you grow. So I guess what I mean to say is you CAN use all that "negative energy". It's not fun but it works.
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You do have a point, and I think that's the reason we evolved to hate. It is a powerful motivator. Hate is an effective survival mechanism, it protected us from complacency and the treachery of others for thousands of years.
Before civilization, where when there were no laws and little technology to help us, hate and other negative emotions would have been extremely useful. Dissatisfaction, paranoia and prejudice were good for keeping people alive. But I think they have become mostly obsolete now.
Love is far more powerful for achieving what you say you use fear for. I've tried both, and I am
far more productive and effective using love as my motivator.
IMO love is just a more advanced tool for self-improvement. Hate has too many side effects: it distorts reality, infuriates others, and worst of all it detracts from your quality of life in the moment. This is not necessary; there is a better way. We are evolving past hate. Everything you can accomplish with it, you can accomplish without it, better, faster, and while having more fun.
I find this idea fascinating and it's essentially what my blog is about. My
first article was all about this.