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Originally Posted by real_username  Ok.. this has seen some time now. I need to share what has happened since...
I have been out with friends every single moment I could share. Have tried to have fun, go out.... meet other girls (with success, but I cannot make myself want them :-(), etc. |
Is this because you think of her?
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Originally Posted by real_username Still I feel this pressure in my stomach. Like every other day. Cannot forget. Seeing her everyday at work is something I cannot run away from. And this makes it really bad. I see her, say hello, etc, but I feel sad, cuz she ain't with me anymore (guess she feels the same way, from what I hear and see). When she's not around I miss her so bad. |
Are you constantly thinking about her at work too?
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Originally Posted by real_username Again - I cannot sleep (barely sleep 2-3 hours per couple of nights), work suffers great from that, even though I made myself to work harder - it's not good enough... |
I found I can't sleep because my thoughts are running around. Are yours?
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Originally Posted by real_username Dunno what else to share.... my sexuality is a disaster - don't/can't feel attracted to any other girl, cannot masturbate (yes.... ), and sexual pressure is so high too.
Looks like I'm going mad.... |
Again, I'd like to ask if you think about her when you masturbate, or see another girl?
What I have found in my life is that the more I think about something that I don't want to think about, the more my life goes crazy. My friendships, work, sex life... I mean everything is affected because I can't stop thinking about the problem.
Now I am unclear if this has been brought up before, but you really need to talk to someone about this. You need to deal with this issue. Find out why you are reacting so negatively when you see her. Remember that it was her choice to walk away and you can't control that. Other people act because they want to and it is not a reflection of you. It's ALWAYS a reflection of them. They make their choice for themseleves just like you do.
I'd like to add that you need to stop thinking about her. Get another job, find something fun to do to get your mind off it, meditate. Just do something to stop thinking about her.
Thoughts cause your feelings.
If you feel bad, change the way you think.
Also, the key to solve your problem is to think about the solution and not the problem. Asking yourself why this happened is focusing on the problem. Instead ask How questions. Ask yourself how can I stop thinking about this situation and get on with my life.
When you solve your problem, you will be free from it. So focus on the solution, not the problem.
Steve