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Originally Posted by tintin  you mean even though you dont like him unbathed you still let him be?
okay .i think this is his way of rebelling.
(i know that sounds totally childish but..thats what people do..sulk and pout until you get their message)
this is an impasse.
you sulking and him sulking. with NO communication .(reprimands and threats dont count)
some acceptance might be in order here.
rather than wanting him to change because you have a different idea about how sex should be is unfair scents maybe you need to accept that thats what he likes and thats the way he is.
so there you go you dont accept him and he rubbishes your needs in turn.tit for tat sez his brain. (you cannot believe how childish two grown up people can be)
now.someone has to make a move...because 'both' are waiting for the other to accept him or her.
see if you want to go first.. |
Thank you tintin. I think you have hit the nail on the head here. You are right I dont accept him. I had an ideal that maybe finally i had met a man who was into me and that he may put my needs first. A man who I could join in a sexual union with. Who found pleasure with me and participated in the experience. All I can see though is a man who remembers the visuals or scenarios he saw on the net and I am just a sperm recepticle. Its as though hes there for himself. Not sure how to deal with a biggie like this. The attraction has died for me over this matter. He has ideals aswel which are if I want sex it has to be fun to which i discovered meant no emotional connection. I have to flaunt my body in a way that will arouse him. I have tried to turn it around so I didnt need words of affirmation to know im doing it the right way, but no compliments or encouragement left me sort of empty.