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Originally Posted by elainevdw  What a great discussion!
As Scorpio brought up in another thread, women can fall into the trap of thinking it unfair for guys to care about our appearances as long as we're winners on the inside. Or, take gender out of it: It's unfair for a person to care about the appearance of their lover as long as they're a good person. |
It is the very old observation/problem of people telling themselves what they would like to believe versus accepting what the reality is. This is complicated by people not speaking honestly about truths they think they are unflattering. People don't like to admit that looks matter or that material success matters. These issues effect both sexes with the former being a bigger problem for women, the latter being a bigger problem for men.
Again, FWIW, starting off with the real world, I think people become shallow when these things are the only things that matter.
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| Do you folks think it would be an ideal world if nobody cared what anybody else looked like? Be honest, here!
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Never happen. It is just the way we are built. Culture and psychology may shift what people perceive as good looking, but people will always judge other people.....to a minimum extent by appearance.
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Ferociousgoals, I know there are other gay posters, but the subject only comes up where it's applicable.  Though I'm not so sure this a solely hetero problem, now, either!
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Gay men are supposed to be the worst in terms of being forgiving for less than perfect looks. Gay women have their own standards too. I have heard gay women talking about other women. They notice looks, they have fetishes, maybe not the same ones straight men do in women, but they have them.