James81... that was hilarious!!
Scents2 - you mentioned in your message to me that you are a mother. Think of what kind of role model do you think you are being to your children? They might not be saying anything but your children are watching. Your behavior is telling them "any dirtbag is OK as long as I'm with someone"
After being in abusive relationships my daughters have now been in abusive relationships themselves-it's been a hard road for them to recover from that - thankfully they learned much quicker than I did. I think my being single - no dating, nothing for the past 1.5 years has been instrumental in them making better choices for themselves now.
If you feel it's overwhelming to be without a man try to get some therapy. Also read "Women who love too much." Also try
Love Addiction & Sex Addiction: Help for love addicts. It's about love addiction, there is alot of good information on their forums.
You have gained alot of insight already. You recognize that you pick men who need to be rescued. You know deep down inside that he will not change. No amount of praise, or adoration is going to make him shower. He must have incredibly low self esteem if he cannot even take care of his own basic needs. DO NOT feel sorry for this guy. He's out for a free ride with this relationship. Take the first step and get him out of the house for good - then work on your own healing so you don't repeat this pattern.