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JLW06251985 · 05-12-2009, 06:41 PM

I'm not quite sure where to start...I know I'm a big emotional mess right now and need some advice.

I started dating my boyfriend last June. We've had our problems as all relationships tend to have from time to time. He quit his job, spent all his time playing video games, and rarely left the house. This angered me so I vented my problems to my co-workers who I've been working with for 5 years and have come to think of them as family. This past January, my boyfriend and I got into a huge argument, he called the police, and I was arrested/charged with disorderly conduct. I wasn't allowed to go to my apartment for two weeks since there was a no contact with him/our apartment. Within a month, my charges were all dropped. I stayed away from him for about 3 weeks and then we began to talk again. I love him a lot. He's a great guy but has his flaws. We eventually got back together and have been dating since February.

I kept this a secret from everyone except one co-worker. Yesterday, another co-worker confronted me after she saw him drop me off at work. She went into a tirade of "why would you be with him - he put you in jail! he doesn't work! are you that desperate?!!? He'll do this to you again!!!". Now, I'm miserable. My boyfriend doesn't really express emotions so to him this isn't a big deal but now I see coworkers talking about me to each other via facebook.

My stomach hurts, I'm on the verge of tears and/or a panic attack. I know they mean well but I'm happy. I probably was wrong to not tell them we had gotten back together but they wouldn't understand. I love him so much. It's been better for the most part since we got back together.

I don't know what to do...I feel like my anxiety is through the roof and I have to face them in 3 hours...My boyfriend tells me that it's MY life and not their's and that I need to "get over it".

I just need some advice what to do...I feel like I'm 2 inches tall.

05-12-2009, 06:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
JLW06251985 Junior Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 5	Trouble in Paradise I'm not quite sure where to start...I know I'm a big emotional mess right now and need some advice. I started dating my boyfriend last June. We've had our problems as all relationships tend to have from time to time. He quit his job, spent all his time playing video games, and rarely left the house. This angered me so I vented my problems to my co-workers who I've been working with for 5 years and have come to think of them as family. This past January, my boyfriend and I got into a huge argument, he called the police, and I was arrested/charged with disorderly conduct. I wasn't allowed to go to my apartment for two weeks since there was a no contact with him/our apartment. Within a month, my charges were all dropped. I stayed away from him for about 3 weeks and then we began to talk again. I love him a lot. He's a great guy but has his flaws. We eventually got back together and have been dating since February. I kept this a secret from everyone except one co-worker. Yesterday, another co-worker confronted me after she saw him drop me off at work. She went into a tirade of "why would you be with him - he put you in jail! he doesn't work! are you that desperate?!!? He'll do this to you again!!!". Now, I'm miserable. My boyfriend doesn't really express emotions so to him this isn't a big deal but now I see coworkers talking about me to each other via facebook. My stomach hurts, I'm on the verge of tears and/or a panic attack. I know they mean well but I'm happy. I probably was wrong to not tell them we had gotten back together but they wouldn't understand. I love him so much. It's been better for the most part since we got back together. I don't know what to do...I feel like my anxiety is through the roof and I have to face them in 3 hours...My boyfriend tells me that it's MY life and not their's and that I need to "get over it". I just need some advice what to do...I feel like I'm 2 inches tall.