Originally Posted by elias_naur
If I undertand you correctly, you two still have them equally much. In what way does the more frequent swapping help, compared to 7 days straight (but also 7 days without them)?
I only have one and she is soon to be 19 (June). She moved in with me full time on her 18th birthday.
The frequency of the changing houses showed her how much she was wanted/needed without us "arguing or fighting" over her. We also focused on how well she was required to keep up with her things. She became very responsible in that aspect. When holidays would come about, my ex and I would try to work it out and we would tell her how it must be nice to be so loved and how everyone wants to have her around for the holidays. We just worked it out without the other being mad or stressing her out, even if I got her on December 26th, it was the day after on the calendar but in our house, it was Christmas day.
Basically what I'm saying, is divorce is a terrible thing in itself so I always tried to focus on the positive aspects of it because it is what it is and if we focus on the "oh, poor thing you have to go back and forth all the time, etc. etc.," then it becomes even more negative.
I know that didn't come out as clearly as I wanted but I hope I made some sense.