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Wooderson · 05-12-2009, 02:26 PM

Great responses everyone.

I think it's pretty clear that she just wants something light and fun and your opinions seem to confirm it.

But admittedly, I'm looking for a relationship. At this point, experience tells me to "test her" a bit by not calling and seeing if she calls, but here's the problem: birthday's this weekend.

Either blessing or a curse: she already made plans to get dinner with her parents. Naturally, I offered to take her out...so she (kinda sheepishly) counteroffered to have me take her out the night before. I said "it's your birthday, you pick the place"...but the subject turned and she hasn't gotten back to me about it. I really want to do something special for her and show her my thoughtful side (it's been a while since I've been able to do this - maybe that's part of it) but I feel that if she's not in to me that much, this would be foolish.

I was thinking about having her come over in the middle of the week, make her dinner and in the least uncomfortable way, figure out where things are going. Good idea or not? Or should I not call altogether on the premise that if she wanted me to take her out, she'd call?

Thanks for your advice everyone...

05-12-2009, 02:26 PM	#7 (permalink)
Wooderson Junior Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 2	Great responses everyone. I think it's pretty clear that she just wants something light and fun and your opinions seem to confirm it. But admittedly, I'm looking for a relationship. At this point, experience tells me to "test her" a bit by not calling and seeing if she calls, but here's the problem: birthday's this weekend. Either blessing or a curse: she already made plans to get dinner with her parents. Naturally, I offered to take her out...so she (kinda sheepishly) counteroffered to have me take her out the night before. I said "it's your birthday, you pick the place"...but the subject turned and she hasn't gotten back to me about it. I really want to do something special for her and show her my thoughtful side (it's been a while since I've been able to do this - maybe that's part of it) but I feel that if she's not in to me that much, this would be foolish. I was thinking about having her come over in the middle of the week, make her dinner and in the least uncomfortable way, figure out where things are going. Good idea or not? Or should I not call altogether on the premise that if she wanted me to take her out, she'd call? Thanks for your advice everyone...