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Hi, I have been with my man for 7 months, as I was single for many years it has taken a while to adjust to being with somebody. I made a deal breaker at the start of our relationship. It came clear that I wasnt clear enough on this matter as I caught him out doing what I suspected as our sex life was pretty non-existant. As time has gone by I have communicated to him that I dont want to be a sexual object to turn him on. What I mean by that is, he has asked that I wear certain clothing to arouse him. This has made me wonder whether my everyday usual self is enough? Im not sure if I lack the confidence to do so or if im just stubborn. I have conveyed to him what i want which is sensual touch. We are now at the stage of which comes first here? Do i get myself turned on without him, to turn him on. Or do I wait for him to let me know hes in the mood? He is purely visual but for me to give visual I have to want to. For me to want to I need touch and to feel sexy. He says its my ideal and it doesnt match his. My theory comes from what he is used to from the internet where women are always ready to go. Im thinking he may not know how to do this? Any thoughts welcomed