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Originally Posted by liquid5170  i've read a few forums where they say that the best way for any decent chance for the girl to realize what she had was to shut her out and have no contact until they start chasing you.
the conflict i have with that is that she's NEVER actually chased any guy after she's broken up with them. ... well that and she's also cried to me telling me she's never had a boyfriend has great as me even though we fight a lot.
i really do want her back and since she does have abandonment issues, the last thing i want to do is "abandon" her... cause she'll just think it's normal in her life that all things she loves will leave. |
Where's your self respect? She's taking full advantage of the fact that you're willing to provide continued emotional support to her while she develops an intimate relationship with another man (even though she knows you want more and is probably enjoying the attention you're giving her as a result). And you're more worried about the best way to get her back than keeping her from walking all over you. People aren't telling you to shut her out of your life just because it will be the most likely way for you to get her back (which it will). People are telling you that because they want you to stand up for yourself and not let her take advantage of you. She abandoned you. There's no reason why you should come whimpering back to her if she has chosen to leave you for someone else unless you want to give her a huge self-esteem boost, remove your dignity, and set yourself up to just friends with her for the rest of your life.