[andrew]

Originally Posted by James81

Well, if you are a guy, there's several issues:

1. First, there is a huge plethora of fake profiles. It can get frustrating trying to figure out who is real, and who isn't.

2. Second, you have to jump through major hoops to stand out. Girls on these sites, from what I understand, get absolutely HAMMERED with emails every single day. So, it can be tricky coming up with a profile that stands out, and then picking the right way to contact them so that they'll actually respond to you.

3. Online dating, from a guy's perspective, is a HUGE amount of work. Much more than you'd have in real life actually. Not only do you have to weed through the fake profiles, come up with a flashy profile, and know what to say to get responses, but then when you DO get responses you have a huge task ahead of you of making them feel comfortable in meeting you, you also have the illusions that some of these women put of with their "myspace angled" pictures that aren't realistic, and finally, the real thing (meeting up with them) is so much different than your interactions online that, if you spend a lot of time getting to know each other online, you might discover that it's wasted time when you actually meet up and realize that the chemistry isn't there and that what you THOUGHT she was like is not what the reality is. Basically, you get sparse portions of what a person is like, and anything you don't know, you fill in with your imagination. Which means you usually play her up in your mind and there is a huge risk of actually being let down when you actually meet.

I agree. I use Match for 4 months, had maybe 2 replies to like 50 emails sent, 5 winks to about 100 sent. They're good too, I know what I'm doing. It's total garbage. I've actually had more success on Craigs List, since I'm not like a creeper, perverted, or lame. Though your quality of women on there is incredibly low, once in a while you find some gems.