One philosophy I have taken on in the past year that really helps, is that if I have a problem with someone else, I look inside myself and see if it is a problem with me, and if I am projecting these changes outward. Say my significant other were to gain 50 pounds, I would look at myself first and see if I am creating this, or perpetuating it. Am I eating unhealthy, not exercising, promoting this type of lifestyle? Am I not being supportive of her? When she says things about her weight, do I just brush it off or make an effort to get her to change? I find that when I fix the problems with me, my environment tends to follow. So no, I would not "let her go for letting herself go". However I think that if she were to never want to change, and likes being fat (I am slightly overweight and its not comfortable, you cant convince me otherwise), then maybe I would end the relationship, but I would still have to make sure its not me creating it.
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