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Originally Posted by James81  Instead of making their desires known upfront within the first interactions, they hide their sexuality (out of either fear of shame) and try to live up to some disney princess fantasy of what a man should be (you know, the kind of men that women SAY they want, but don't actually want). |
Because men have grown up to be ashamed of their sex drive and to be made to feel foolish for desiring beauty by women, so they pretend they don't have those desires, or they try to convince themselves they aren't so "shallow" as to be male human beings, the way nature made them. A guy who likes what he sees, likes what he sees.
I assume for women the same could be true, they are told to hide their desires as well because "nice girls" are expected to be without sexual desire.
I don't know of any guy who deceives himself into being physically attracted to a woman he isn't attracted to because he's "supposed to like that type". I can't imagine how that would work. It just happens. It's not something you think about. It's deep, primal, instant.
Really messed up puritanical system we have, where both men and women are raised to be ashamed of their natural impulses.