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Originally Posted by IFeelGood  James, will you please elaborate on that more? I have been tossing around the idea of online dating, which I have never tried, and wonder why it would be better for women? If the women are benefitting, I am assuming that it is because they are meeting men... so it seems like it would benefit men too. Are there special privileges that online sites give to women that they do not give to men?
I am not sure whether to try Match or EHarmony. I also heard of one called Plenty of Fish. Can anyone give some insight about whether a paid vs free dating site is better?
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Well, if you are a guy, there's several issues:
1. First, there is a huge plethora of fake profiles. It can get frustrating trying to figure out who is real, and who isn't.
2. Second, you have to jump through major hoops to stand out. Girls on these sites, from what I understand, get absolutely HAMMERED with emails every single day. So, it can be tricky coming up with a profile that stands out, and then picking the right way to contact them so that they'll actually respond to you.
3. Online dating, from a guy's perspective, is a HUGE amount of work. Much more than you'd have in real life actually. Not only do you have to weed through the fake profiles, come up with a flashy profile, and know what to say to get responses, but then when you DO get responses you have a huge task ahead of you of making them feel comfortable in meeting you, you also have the illusions that some of these women put of with their "myspace angled" pictures that aren't realistic, and finally, the real thing (meeting up with them) is so much different than your interactions online that, if you spend a lot of time getting to know each other online, you might discover that it's wasted time when you actually meet up and realize that the chemistry isn't there and that what you THOUGHT she was like is not what the reality is. Basically, you get sparse portions of what a person is like, and anything you don't know, you fill in with your imagination. Which means you usually play her up in your mind and there is a huge risk of actually being let down when you actually meet.
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From the girls perspective, you're likely to have your pick of the litter. You'll get so many responses that you can literally be as picky and choosy as you like.
Although number 3 might be a problem for women as well.