Hey guys, thanks for your replies.
Andy, you are circling around thoughts I've been having. I have to do something for myself at some point, but I seem to be lacking clarity, direction and means. Which is probably wants really bothering me.
I have listened to CDs, but I enjoy holding a book in my hands. Plus, I'm very visual as well as auditory.
These people have so many problems, they need help and they ask me for things, and yet I don't have something really better to do to tell them no. So, I do feel obligated.
Wolf, your post really makes me look at things from a different angle. Not quite the angle you are referring to, but still different none the less. The unconscious methods people try to get their needs, and such. It does fit in some ways. But I'd probably be somewhat no different in this manor.
Its not so much as it seems that they are helpless, but that is how they make me feel. Mary will go without eating vs dealing with pain to get up and walk into the kitchen. While my mom feels trapped in her situation via other means. In a sense it goes to more or less tolerating or accepting there situations as finite and never going to change.
I just had somewhat of an argument with my mom whom started having problems 8 years ago, but never really did much to 1) learn about her condition, and 2) take steps to prevent it. Always claiming needing help and such.
In the end its painful to see people you care about unwilling to change the way they do things so they don't have to go through pain. Yet, what I find most irritating in them, lies within me. I just am lacking in identifying and dealing with things in an effective and progressive manor.
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