[Kelsey]

a lot of times ive seen that people in horrible situations tend to fucos in on several things in particular.
one- their surroundings. they analyze and pick apart their surroundings as if it were simply one thing in itself. as if it does not have many many pieces but as if it were one enemy, one dark painful thing. this is a completely false view, obviously. but in the mind of someone in pain it is easier to say goodbye to one thing than many. its easier to label than to truly understand.
two- negative aspects. people who are experiencing horrible things will focus in and tap into negative feelings very often. they will catagorize their life and who they are to further dip themselves in the pain they feel until they are desensitized of the world around them. until they cannot (or for better word) will not see the joy and beauty that in actuality, is everywhere.
three- easy. people who are in trouble, have issues, or are faced with suffer or loss or problems will let their minds take an "escape route" if you will the instant the problem arises. its a human reaction. we all are faced with an accusation. we think about walking away, denial etc. its all so easy. but the point of life is to BE difficult. thats really what makes life so great at times. if we as humans never had to face adversity or problems or suffering, than we would live in monotone so to speak. its the times that are the worst that make us stronger, love more, and be alive for gods sake. We all will, are, or have gone through hardships and have probably focused on the very things ive mentioned at some time or another. the end result is never an escape route in real life. the way to a happy successful life is like a symphony. it is not monotone. there are fluctuations, decrescendi, breakes, and sometimes beautiful, even melodies. the joy is being strong enough to wait until the melody arrives and listen. you will see no matter how long the song, it will be there.