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Originally Posted by cylon  They are different. And the difference is women enjoy the drama of all this stuff. Men don't. Women have plenty of ways to disqualify a man before he gets to the point he can hurt her. They complain about the guys that don't treat them well yet these are the same men who they willingly choose. |
Men have those same ways.
And men do the same thing. What you don't understand is that attraction is NOT a choice. For example, I simply cannot help the fact that I am not attracted to a morbidly obese woman. I can't change that fact at all, even if the woman herself has the perfect personality and compliments me in all ways, I still can't help that I am not physically attracted to her and would probably choose a more physically attractive women even if I knew she was wrong for me.
Women do the same exact thing. They can't HELP that they are attracted to those guys who don't treat them well because they POSSESS THE QUALITIES THAT THEY FIND ATTRACTIVE. Just like a nice body is attractive to us, those dominating, confident qualities exhibited by the jerks they date are attractive to them. The problem comes in (with both sexes) is that we take what we are attracted to and hope that we can CHANGE the person to be more compatible with us (which doesn't work).
And women don't enjoy the drama anymore than men do. That's a myth perpetuated by the insecure crowds within the PUA community.