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Originally Posted by cylon  The word 'date' gives whatever the interaction is more significance than it deserves, which adds unnecessary pressure. Unnecessary pressure=chemistry killer.
It may seem like hair splitting, but the word date has too much history and baggage behind it. |
It only puts pressure on it if you choose to allow it to put pressure on it.
To me, it's very important that there is a distinction made in my interactions with women between a "date" and "hanging out." Because I want my intentions to be CLEAR to her about what I'm wanting. It really helps alleviate the whole "friendzone" aspect when you are clear about dating as opposed to "hanging out." "Hanging out" could potentially mean that two people are on two different pages (one things it's friendship, the other romantic).
Aside from that, dating is natural. making it into something full of pressure is a construct of your own reality. You choose to add pressure to it by believing it adds pressure to it.
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Originally Posted by Vermilion Sparrow This is probably one of my main problems in human interaction, period. And I'm a woman. Anyone who shows interest in me at all gets treated like a new best friend/soul mate, if only for a few minutes before they start to think I'm weird and make excuses to leave.  |
*backs away slowly*
j/k