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Originally Posted by MidasGirl  Excellent post. I never quite "got" the whole PUA thing, honestly. Attraction is soooo natural. Although I call myself a hottie, I'd never call myself a 10 and yet I've never had any problems attracting guys in my life. |
You don't get it because you are a girl. It's that simple. Attraction is so natural to you because, as you say, you are attractive. Being attractive is like 80% of the battle for a girl when it comes to attraction. Thus, you attract guys without ever having to think about it or worry about it.
Thing is, it doesn't work that way with guys. If it did, I would never have to worry about getting a date either. Not that I'm God's gift to women, but I am fairly attractive myself. There are LOTS of factors that go into attracting women. Being a "hot guy" isn't all there is, because girls don't measure hotness the way we do. To us (guys) "hotness" is mostly superficial at first. Her hair, her body, etc. In time, that goes away a little and personality comes into play, but initial attraction (the kind of attraction that gets you dates), is mostly about surface looks.
For girls, they are more attracted to qualities than looks. Looks are important, but things like confidence and stuff like that is more important.
So, in essence, the best PUA stuff will focus on teaching guys the path towards self-confidence, helping the "nice guys" (overcompensating nice that is) recover and establish boundaries, and how to get what you want out of life so that you are naturally attractive to girls.
Trouble is, most PUA stuff focuses on trickery, using canned lines, etc.
But there is definately a need for PUA for men. Because for men, it's a little more complicated than doing your hair and putting on a sexy outfit.